Among the ugliest and hardest relationship destroyers are the frequent criticisms and blames. These usually have a hard impact on the spirit and the mind due to the pain, frustration, and often, a sense of despair they cause, whether the criticism is directed at behavior, appearance, or even ideas and opinions.

All are criticism...

Our internal sense of self-confidence gradually decreases with the quantity, degree, and manner of the criticism. The closer the critic is to us, the harder and more difficult the intention is. When there is no justification for the criticism, it causes even more pain, giving us the feeling that we are not worthy of respect and appreciation. This leads us to avoid engaging in participation and social communication as a protection for our inner selves from criticism and blame, a natural reaction to the risks we bear when interacting with others.

Criticism might be a form of revenge or a strong desire to inflict deliberate psychological harm, regardless of its reasons, be it fierce competition or jealousy. The harshness of criticism and blame can also be due to a lack of understanding and seeking practical solutions, which requires cooperation and joint rectification.

However, not all criticism is bad or harsh. Constructive and balanced criticism can be very beneficial for personal growth and self-improvement. It can stimulate us to develop our skills, overcome our weaknesses, and achieve success in life. When criticism is conducted calmly, fairly, and in a constructive manner, it gains the motivational power capable of transforming us into better versions of ourselves.

Criticism has types and relies on three pillars: the first is whether the criticism is indeed accurate and objective... is it to avoid a mistake or a lifestyle that deserves correction, bringing it to your attention...

The second pillar is the method and style of criticism... Is its style rude and painful... or simple and advising...

The third pillar is the purpose of the criticism: is it for reform or to inflict harm...

Therefore, it is important to deal with criticism and blame wisely and patiently. We must remember that we cannot please everyone, and dealing with criticism is a part of personal growth. We need to learn how to think openly and constructively, and how to turn negative criticism into a motivation for improvement. We also need to learn to distinguish between constructive, purposeful criticism and harsh, negative criticism, and to listen to constructive criticism and respond to it positively.

In short, criticism and blame are part of life, but the importance of responding to them correctly lies in our ability to handle them with calm, fair, and constructive words. The primary goal of criticism should be improvement and development, and when we utilize criticism positively, it can become a powerful tool in our journey towards success and continuous learning.