When I read Quran I ponder over the divine advice of grace and nobility when someone decides to take an action against someone that was a cause of harm in any way. How can anyone be gracious in avoiding someone?! What is meant by noble forgiveness or lenient patience?! In the Quranic expression, they all shared the same Arabic adjective “Jamil” that is very comprehensive and yet not easy to translate into English. We are advised to be nice and kind in any counter reaction we take. It is not an easy attitude but to be good you have to follow and succumb.

When someone consumes all the peaceful ways to bear with harm afflicted on him by others, he finds no other way that to avoid any source of harm and spare himself the consequences of toxic relationships. When a person decides to avoid a spouse, friend, communityٍ for various reasons it is a bold and difficult decision. God does not advice against this. However, He orders us to be gracious. Avoid them but do not attack. Do not return harm for harm. Leave peacefully. Do not take revenge. Think of moving forward. Don’t look back bitterly but rather” forgive graciously.”

When people lead a competitive life full of conflicts and struggles they fight and argue. They get mad at each other, insult and humiliation take place as well.  At appoint, life has to go on. When one of the two admits his mistakes and apologizes for what he did against his friend, neighbour, family member or work colleague, it’s time for forgiveness. If the latter choses to forgive he has to do it willingly and in good heart. Do not reprimand or blame for this will open the wound again. Get over the situation. Forget and forgive. Be gracious and noble. Give him another chance. Flip the page and depart courteously.

As for patience it is a challenging virtue. Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. You either have to be patient towards other people’s actions or towards the hardships and calamities of life. Tolerance is not easy. It needs wisdom. You can avoid a nasty person but you cannot avoid a calamity. You have to deal with affliction with acceptance. Don’t grumble. Don’t moan day and night. Be patient. Raise your grievance to God. Seek His guidance and mercy. Stay in peace. Accept with a smile and an aching heart. Believe in the wisdom of God and get the best you can of your current situation. Deal with hardships peacefully. Have a “peaceful patience”.