A child is born vulnerable, impressionable, ready to be built up or torn down. If left to his natural instincts, he would emerge into the world whole and healed, capable of both attack and defense, and able to fulfill his essential needs smoothly, free from any psychological stress.

The traits of siblings often resemble one another due to exposure to the same living conditions and upbringing. While genetics play a role, they are not as influential as life experiences. If it were only about genetics, the traits of individuals from the same community, sharing a similar climate, customs, traditions, and views, would not be so alike.

Many psychologists believe that every scar in our hearts can be traced back to childhood, even if we mistakenly think it's from a recent wound. They also dispute the idea of fundamental differences in human nature, asserting that the basic nature is uniform, and deviations are surely the result of some problem. It's natural for a child to be "destructive" as the saying goes; from their perspective, this destructiveness is an attempt to explore the essence of things. If they don't show this curiosity, there's a reason behind it. It's natural for a child to ask his teacher to answer a question if he knows the answer. If he pretends not to know to avoid going on stage or being looked at, therein lies the issue. There's no shyness without a reason; there's modesty, a favored trait of prophets, and there's shyness after committing a sin, indicating a living and alert conscience. But shyness without committing a sin, or without any reason, is a disorder.

It's natural for children to talk about everything they see, and it's also natural for them to speak the truth even if it might put them or others in an awkward position. They have not yet developed filters or refined their speech, and they should be allowed to get there on their own. If they reach it too early, it's worse; they may either learn to lie and deceive to save themselves and others or remain silent indefinitely.

Education plays a significant role in selecting human traits, such as strength vs. weakness, leadership vs. being led, freedom of expression vs. unconditional listening, the ability to make and execute decisions, and seeking advice from others even when choosing the color of new shoes.

But it's not the end. While it's beautiful for children to enter the world well-adjusted, it doesn't guarantee they will remain that way. And while it's sad for children to bear many tragedies and scars, they aren't doomed to bear them for life.

The balanced child remains so until facing a real test. This test could be a turning point if he doesn't seriously fortify himself. If he doesn't recognize his wholeness and the fact that many imbalanced individuals surround him before life teaches him this lesson. While it's challenging, it's not impossible for someone with scars to rid themselves of their pain. Some wounds need to be reopened and cleaned to heal without leaving a mark. But this won't happen without precisely recognizing the wound's location. Knowing, acknowledging, and treating your problem is solely your responsibility for your peace and the peace of those around you.

Many people give birth, but few genuinely raise their children. Upbringing isn't just about feeding and education – that's merely caregiving. Upbringing is far more noble; it's what makes a human being truly human. Upbringing provides the reference that one carries throughout life, armed with its teachings. And practice is always better than theory; children adopt what they see more than what they are told. A lion only gives birth to lions.